All we tend to see on social media when it comes to self-care is a perfectly photographed shot of a green smoothie or a bubble bath with flower petals in it. Yes, I’ll take the green smoothie (yum), but I’m not one for petals potentially getting stuck up my ass. In all seriousness, I don’t know when self-care became something so glamorous. Don’t get me wrong: I’m not here to judge your form of self-care. I’m just here to say that mine seems to be completely different.
Self-care, for me, isn’t something that always looks so beautiful. It’s not something that feels out of the ordinary. It’s not getting a massage on a random Sunday. It’s not always spending my paycheck on a dinner that could have gone towards something with more longterm fulfillment. Self-care is doing things on a DAILY basis that will progress me further towards my goals.
Self-care is doing the things that sometimes I quite frankly don’t feel like doing, and yet recognizing they’re part of the bigger picture. Self-care is being honest with yourself. It means recognizing when there’s an issue, and deciding to tackle it versus avoiding it.
Self-care is wearing my retainer at night, no matter how much it hurts my teeth. Self-care is taking care of the body I was given, even if that means going to bed with a coconut oil smothered face. Self-care is getting enough sleep every single night so that I’m fully present with others the next day. Self-care is accepting that the baby-gramma life is sometimes the best life.
Self-care is saying no to plans that I just simply don’t feel like doing. It’s respectfully saying no, and unapologetically carrying on with the rest of my day. It’s not having to explain myself, it’s not feeling guilty for not being somewhere that I’m “expected” to be. It’s deciding what is best for me in the moment, without fear of judgement from others.
Self-care is setting up a budget for myself. It is being financially aware of what I can afford, and accepting that some things will have to be sacrificed. It is sometimes having to disappoint others when you I can’t join along with their excursions. It is distancing myself from others that no longer add a positive purpose to your life.
Self-care is both being active and exercising, as well as honoring my body when it needs rest. It is nourishing my body with food that makes it feel good, whether that be a slice of cake or a salad. It is eating food in moderation, and allowing myself to fully enjoy it.
Self-care is NOT something to use to escape the life I live. It’s something that is part of it.