Self-Love: Doing Things out of Love for Yourself, Versus out of Hate

Hey all you out there on your own self-love journey. The concept of self-love is getting a lot of recognition lately (YAY! LET’S ALL REJOICE!) This is a concept I can totally get down with, and one that I empower each of my clients to reach. Is it easy? No, of course not. Especially not when we live in a social-media-obsessed world that seems to “reward” and “praise” women for the shape and size of their body more than everything else they offer.

And so I won’t sugarcoat it: self-love doesn’t happen overnight. Honestly? I think it’s an ongoing process. There is no “end” to it. It’s a constant work in progress. And I’m still on that journey myself.

Self-love isn’t exposing ourselves according to what we THINK society wants to see. Self-love is being raw. It’s being authentic in your skin. It’s owning whatever it is that you are feeling, and allowing others to see that. It’s not masking our experience with a perfectly filtered photo. It’s simply being real.

Self-love isn’t glamorizing being ‘thin’ or being ‘fat.’ They’re literally just body types, that have unfortunately been associated with being ‘attractive’ or ‘unattractive’ in society.

Self-love is respecting and appreciating the body you exist in. The body that you call home. It’s about shedding off your external layers (figuratively or literally), and standing in acceptance of the current skin you’re in.

Self-love is loving your current self, while ALSO acknowledging that you’re still allowed to improve! I think often times the notion of self-love gets misconstrued with never being able to make changes. Having to remain stagnant in your current self.

Personally? I WANT to improve myself! I WANT to grow stronger at the gym! I WANT to continue to build an even healthier relationship with food. I WANT to continue educating myself in the field of mental health, nutrition, and fitness. I WANT to take the steps necessary to get healthier and softer skin. Why? Because I love myself and want to treat myself as well as freakin’ possible.

Self-love is acknowledging and accepting where you CURRENTLY are, and enjoying the process of self-improvement because you DESERVE it. Not because you HATE where you are in this moment.

Self-love is not eating all the pizza in the world just to rebel against society’s “clean eating trend.” It’s also not eating all the Buddha Bowls in the world as a way to feel this zen-like-healthy aura come over you. It’s about eating both, allowing for a balance. It’s about the RELATIONSHIP with food, and how you view the food that you’re nourishing your body with.

Self-love is doing things out of LOVE for yourself, versus doing things out of HATE.

Self-love at ANY size or ANY body shape is just giving your body the amount of respect it deserves – which happens to be A LOT.



Nicole works as a life and wellness coach through Nicole Leigh Coaching ( Nicole strives to empower women with similar struggles to redefine and re-identify themselves, separate from their eating disorder. Through her work, she empowers women to use balance in every aspect of life to maintain lifelong recovery. When Nicole isn't blogging or counseling, she loves spending her time traveling, eating burgers, and surrounding herself with positive people.